Just because they did it in Friends, it doesn’t mean it’s OK in real life, guys.Where relationships are concerned, going out with one of your mates’ ex partners is, whichever way you look at it, wrong. According to Urban Dictionary an Eskimo Brother is “a male who has had sex with, and ejaculated inside of the same woman as a good friend”. My best friend dated my boyfriend at the time when I was like 19, in fact I was still going out with him. "It was very weird for a while though and I would never do it personally! “It seems daft now when I think about it to lose a friend over that.” “My friend is actually dating my ex right now but they are both my best friends and I dated him a long time ago (and have moved on now) so I’m glad they’re both happy.At the time it was exciting doing something we shouldn’t. They got back together and as far as I know they’re still together with a kid.“Of course now looking back I think it was wrong, but sometimes you just want to do something reckless and don’t think of the outcome. I also think it depends on how close you and your friend are.
Coping requires knowing your feelings, talking to your friend and deciding upon some strategies to keep your friendship intact.Atlanta, Georgia (CNN) -- "Would you be upset if a friend starting dating someone they knew you were once deeply in love with?" This is the status I was greeted with this week on the Facebook page of one of my dear girlfriends.We weren't put on this planet to be small, Gia. And if that aches a bit—I promise you, it's nothing more than a growing pain.Dear Lisa, My husband is perpetually on time, and I'm always a little late. Unless you're a terrible person, you probably don't want to trample your ex's heart in the process of nurturing your new flame. And, guess what, your new squeeze—who just might be a nice person! As noted journalist Mary Schmich once said, "don't be reckless with other people's hearts." There's no need to punch an innocent bystander in their tender bits because you've gotten burned or are pining for someone else. If you were the one who got dumped however, we think you have a little more leverage in pursuing your ex's pal; after all s/he didn't want you anymore, right? I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom. If the chemistry is explosive and undeniable, it may be worth the risk. If you were the one who took out the garbage, you might want to go about this is a very. manner so as not to induce window breaking from your ex. The question is whether you can act on that sweet sound of "click." First and foremost, let's make sure you have good intentions. You're the smartest, funniest and best dressed at the office—everyone is mad crushing on you. Gee whiz, that hottie friend of your ex seems to notice . It's a mess to be sure, but that's different than being a horrible person We don’t own people; we just share our time with them . A great relationship, and great chemistry between two people, can be rare to come by. Said ex probably likes people who share similar qualities (mountain biking! ) and you guys have probably all pal-ed around together for months, maybe even years; it makes that you might be attracted to ex's friend. For all you know, your ex just wasn't that into it and might be stoked to see you move on to someone who's better suited for you. Accusations and tears may flow as freely as the alcohol that you're likely consuming. Don't self loathe, wallow or spiral into misery, that's not gonna make anyone's pain go away and it sure as hell isn't going to pave a smooth foundation for your new love-fest. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her.Dear Lisa, My friend ran into my ex-husband at Costco, and now she wants to know whether I'd be okay with her asking him out. You appreciate the fact that your friend was up-front.We've been amicably divorced for almost three years, and I'm happily involved with somebody else. I know I don't have a leg to stand on, but I really don't want them getting together. You tell her the idea makes you surprisingly uncomfortable, but you'll work to overcome that discomfort. If you say no, you'll be denying two decent people a shot at the kind of happiness you've been lucky enough to find for yourself.