Dating rules meet parents

In my family, there’s an old saying that the teenagers will always come home safe and sound and on time from a date because they know daddy’s waiting on the front porch with a shotgun.

While meant as a joke, the story says something about parents’ age-old concerns for their teens when they begin to date.

These are questions many dating single parents wrestle with.

And frankly, it's important to consider them because your children are learning from your own example what to expect when it comes to dating, intimacy, and commitment.

The Solution: Try using that age as a "review" age.

Parents need to know why they are setting the rules, and they also need to discuss the rules openly with their children.

Here are some of the most common dating rules and how they can be used most effectively to guide teens through the world of dating: Pros: You can set an age where most teens have a good maturity level and are able to think independently.

He smiled as he thought about all those after-school trips over the last few years: dance classes, piano practices, the unending cycle of softball games and tournaments.

He glanced at her in the seat next to him and thought, .

Pros: The Bible says Christians should be yoked to fellow believers.

If a teen is dating another Christian, there is a greater likelihood that they will remain abstinent and supportive of one another.

Tell your teen that you will talk about dating when he or she is ____ years old.

Then you can sit down and have a conversation to see if your teen is ready.

When asked what she wishes her mom would do differently while dating, Rachel, a smart young graduate student, replied, “I wish she would recognize her own impulsivity and emotional rollercoaster.

She does and says things without recognizing that to some extent our whole family is dating this guy.

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