He points out that their identity hinges on these three things, and once they are in place, a man is ready for dating.Harvey continues this theme in his new book, , Harvey talks about the disservice society commits on young men by telling them to remain in adolescence until they hit 30.Recently, a young woman was trying to decide between marrying a man for sex and marrying a man for his financial stability.She wrote a letter to Steve Harvey and Shirley Strawberry, who co-host a popular segment on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show” called “Strawberry Letters,” hoping to get some guidance. “Your crazy ass, sitting here talking about ‘the other guy’… You either want a real man, or you want an animal …You could have just picked one, but you cain’t, because you triflin’.”Steve Harvey has long been a successful comedian and radio personality, but his career really took off when he began dispensing no-holds-barred relationship advice. And women can’t seem to get enough of Harvey’s straight shooting, sending his first book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,” onto the New York Times bestseller list and prompting his recent follow-up, “Straight Talk, No Chaser.“Harvey is not without detractors, who point out the thrice-married comic relies on played-out gender stereotypes and places all the blame for bad relationships on women, while ensuring that men are left largely to their own devices.But in a world where love advice comes from televised matchmakers who want to regulate everything from how you dress to how much curl to put in your hair, Harvey delivers his tart takes with charm.
And for the record, I am right 98 percent of the time.
As a feminist and one who advocates for women to be released from all rules that govern how, when, where and why we sex, I am totally against blanket guidelines being provided to women (who obviously have had unsuccessful relationships and are looking for answers) that may or may not be beneficial to them as individuals.
Meaning, one woman can decide that she is ready to have sex after an initial meeting, and another may need years of contemplation before taking such a step; neither method of thinking is right or wrong.
Now the adolescence age is 10-24—24 being the end of college as a rite of passage.
After this extended adolescence is over though, Harvey explains that boys become men and they realize that it’s time to settle down.
, but I found the advice so simple, honest and believable, that I came to put my trust in his books.
In his first book, he generalizes the three most important things for men: who they are, what they do, and how much they make.
As a divorcee well into her thirties with plenty of “dating the wrong guy” experience, and as someone who studies and discusses women, desire and relationships often, I won’t count out a woman’s need to investigate her own feelings about sharing sex and the expectations that follow- AND how those expectations will affect her feelings of self worth and esteem.
A woman who understands that she becomes extremely emotionally attached to her partner post-coitus may need significant time to determine who her potential partner is and where the relationship may go after sex.
I won’t go into one of the many rants I have stored up on how damaging the mere premise of Steve Harvey’s Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady book can be to women attempting to maneuver through already confusing dating and relationship rituals.
That ship has sailed, we all watched it make its bon voyage.