You won't see his eyes glaze over when you start an in-depth comparative analysis of Beyoncé's discography because he genuinely cares about what you have to say.2. It doesn't matter if he's talking to his boss or the waitress who's covering your table, it's "please" and "thank you" all day and all night. Not only is he great at listening to your problems, he's always there to give honest, thoughtful guidance when you ask for it. He's generally down to do things with you that other guys make every conceivable effort to avoid. Flowers, breakfast in bed, random notes left around your room — he does it all. When you want to spend the morning lying in bed and talking about Li Fe*~, it's shy guys FTW.
He understands that showing emotion is a thing that humans do. Shy guys like to receive praise and recognition in a humble way, which just makes you want to brag about how fucking great he is. He's basically a human advent calendar, and each day, you find out a tantalizing new detail you never knew about him before.
Brave-ish: The next time you need to get up to go to the bathroom, do that thing where you needlessly brush them as you walk past, like, "OMG it's so crowded in here, sorry I have to squeeze by you! When you order, consider saying something playful, but then just order so quietly that your crush has to ask you to repeat yourself at least twice. Brave-ish: Pay very close attention to when this person arrives at work and leaves work. Awkward: Type this person's name into the "To:" field of a work email or Gchat box and close out of it immediately a few times. Brave: Make eyes at them for 20 minutes, then introduce yourself, then talk for a while, and then say, "Do you want to get out of here? Later, text a friend who is still at the party and ask, "What is [crush's name] doing now?
And on the off-chance that things do end up working out, a little awkwardness in the beginning is a small price to pay for someone who could end up being a great guy down the road.
He works in the media lab at my school and has been helping me (along with some other grad students) learn some new software.
He seems like a really nice guy but doesn't seem to pick up on social cues very well.
" or you can do that thing on TV where you tell the server you're paying for their next one. Just make peace with either pretending it never happened or finding a new coffee spot if it doesn't go as planned.
Then they'll look over, and your eyes will meet across the room, and then [seamless transition into sex scene]. Brave-ish: Slowly incorporate non-order conversation into your interactions, even if it's something as simple as complimenting that leaf they just "drew" on your latte. No, it is.")Awkward: Visit the coffee shop so often that you no longer even enjoy it.
With that in mind I thought I'd try to be even more helpful and write a whole article outlining what it's like to be a man who's really shy and inexperienced with women.
At the end I give a few thoughts on what to do if there's a shy guy in your life you're interested in.
For example, after he's given you instruction on something and you've figured it out, he has a tendency to wait around creating a sort-of awkward silence.
He also has a tendency to hover around even when you haven't asked for his help.
I also wrote a follow up to this article on some of the unique issues shy women struggle with.
I'll break this down further below, but their central problem is that they're just really anxious, scared, and inhibited around women.