The easiest way to love someone on the spectrum is by learning to accept them.
Trying to change them will not be possible, even if they do change slightly they will be extremely unhappy on the inside and will be living a life that does not feel natural to them.
I preferred to build forts, climb trees, and collect river frogs with the boys.
The neighbors disapproved of my “tom girl” ways, but fortunately did not prevent me from being athletic.
While a young adult with classic autism may appear content with a solitary “monastic” lifestyle, this is often not the case with young adults who have Asperger’s syndrome or high-functioning autism.
Clinical experience has identified that the majority of such adolescents and young adults would like a romantic relationship.
Than, one day, a bomb dropped on my lap while having a talk with one of my mentees. “Kerry, how do you expect ME to be successful in a relationship when you, my mentor, are single?
” I had the biggest lump in my throat for the next few seconds.
Adolescents with Asperger’s syndrome also are gullible and vulnerable to being given misinformation on relationships by fellow teenagers.Girls in our culture are encouraged to “act like ladies” and blend in, whereas “boys will be boys” is often given as the reason for males who may have behavioral issues.Teachers, care givers, professionals and parents allow more latitude and tolerance for boys and men who are disruptive and act out.I started thinking a mile a second about my own personal experiences with dating just at that moment…No one gave me a blue print on how to find a relationship when I decided I wanted a girlfriend when I was 18. That for me was one of the most important things I could do.Also bear in mind, you will probably never understand how their brain ticks.My partner jokingly refers to my brain as being wired upside down.The fear and pain of rejection can be a very difficult time for anyone.Add someone who’s on the autism spectrum and it can be almost unbearable.The needs of girls and women with autism, different from those of neurotypicals, have recently caught the attention of the autism community and the public, in general.Girls with autism are a minority population frequently exhibiting dissimilar behaviors than boys who are diagnosed five to one with autism spectrum disorder (ASD).