Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.
It is characterized by urgency, intensity, sexual desire, and or anxiety, in which there is an extreme absorption in another.
Eighteen months after my marriage ended, I jumped into a heady, sexually intense year-long relationship with a fellow writer and parent who was 20 years older than I was.
In hindsight, it was no surprise it ended — his kids were grown, mine were tiny, our lives were at different points.
Often these kinds of relationships built on infatuation can die as quickly as they sprung up.
Plus, it’s necessary to remember that a breakup is temporary -- the feeling will not last forever. You might think it’s better to hide your feelings and appear strong, but it’s healthy to release those feelings of pain so you can move on from the relationship. Now that your ex isn’t around to stop you, try joining a club, starting a project, cooking a great meal, learning a musical instrument or a second language, or whatever you think will help distract you from the breakup and get out enjoying life again.Get back to your roots and try your hand at some of the hobbies you had that may have stopped because of your ex.Sometimes, unhealthy relationships cause people to unintentionally sever ties with loved ones.The best part of a heartbreak is that it eventually ends, and sometimes it ends just around the time you meet someone NEW and GREAT. You already know that you're strong enough to survive a nasty breakup.Sure, you know how bad it can hurt, but you also know that it's nothing you can't get through, and that lets you relax and take more chances in your new relationship.2.The truth is, this feeling of urgency and intensity or strong attraction toward another person is not necessarily a reliable indicator of whether you are in love or should immediately dive into a serious dating relationship.The wisest man in the bible, King Solomon said, Guard your affections, for out of them come the issues of life.But that did not make me love him any less, and did nothing to tamper the absolute devastation that pummeled me when we broke up. I’ve known Kirsten for 12 years, and even though she lives on the other side of the country, we remain very close and she knows all my shit. As I talked and sobbed and blubbered and talked some more it all came out.Even months after we split, Sundays when my kids are with their dad and I would have otherwise spent with my ex-boyfriend, I instead engaged in unseemly behavior like walking around the streets of Manhattan while bawling uncontrollably, listening to John Legend on a loop and reading the on Carrie and Mr. Not only was all this embarrassing, it was also incongruous with the events at hand. Besides the end of my relationship, my mom has been unwell.Getting back up on your feet (and TBH out of your bed) can be really hard after a heartbreak.But no matter how many times you swear that you'll just be alone forever and ever, you know that just isn't true.