— Father Alexey Young It's very possible to have a good life and successful relationship with someone Christian who's not Orthodox, but there's more to the purpose of marriage than simply establishing a nice life with a permanent companion.According to the Orthodox Church, the real purpose of marriage is to attain salvation.
For most of history and in a large but shrinking portion of the Orthodox world today, single people did not have to worry about who they would marry: someone else chose for them. We cannot imagine not choosing our own hair style, clothing and career path; much less not choosing our own spouse.
In the best cases, the people involved had veto power; that is, neither one had to accept the match. We vainly imagine this power of choice is the same as freedom, but if we have no basis on which to choose other than our subjective urges, transient likes and dislikes, and fantasies based on movies, novels and occasional glimpses at internet pornography, then choice is not freedom but bondage: bondage to the ideals of a sick culture and the passions of a fallen mind.
But this is the reality many Orthodox Christians in North America and Europe today.
Some lucky few have relationships with parents or spiritual mentors that are close enough and mature enough to provide some guidance and advice in the search for a mate. Even if they do ask for advice or guidance from a priest or parent or other responsible person, many young people are merely seeking confirmation for what they already feel or think or lust for.
So this is where we start: one priest's dating guide for Orthodox Christians.
So, true to my nature, I emailed his Facebook page and asked him if we could talk.
He hopes will help people find someone that will strengthen their faith and spiritual life. Adam loves being married so much that he wants all of his friends to be married too.
Being seen on a date with another Orthodox Christian in a church setting implies instant engagement. As a result, dating someone from church has become the least attractive option. Besides the OCF Winter Conferences or the mission teams with OCMC and IOCC, I don’t know of another national, pan-Orthodox event for young adults to meet.
He understands that for something like this to be successful it needs to be able to protect the user and the business. Adam has an advisory board of clergy and lawyers to be sure everyone is safe.
In New Testament times, the focus of marriage was switched from a primary purpose of producing children, to a primary purpose of providing a way for human beings to save their souls.
The wedding ceremony itself is filled with rich symbolism that makes this whole aspect of marriage very clear.