There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.
Relationship building with the opposite sex is risky, but in God's created order This may sound old-fashioned, but I believe it not for the sake of tradition, which of necessity comes and goes, but because it is biblical.I've been working in youth ministry in some capacity for roughly eight years, and this is one of the most common questions I've fielded from young Christians: “How can (insert boyfriend/girlfriend) and I have a Christian dating relationship? ” As often I've heard it, I still love the the heart behind the question.A couple of youngins' get to dating, and they want to “do it right.” They realize that God is concerned with every aspect of our lives, including our romantic involvements, so they've resolved to have a “Christian” dating relationship and sought guidance. Should we buy a devotional and go through it together? ” If the young man's of a theological bent, he shows up with a potential 10-week preaching series already outlined. As I already mentioned, couples often get this idea that to be truly “spiritual” they should start interweaving their spiritual lives into one.Furthermore, the Ephesians 5 passage describes the husband as "the head of the wife." Men are called to be—created to be—leaders.This is not an empowerment that mystically comes over a man at his wedding, but part of his inherent nature.But aside from that, there's no real, hard-and-fast rules about this sort of thing. No, if you want your significant other to actually grow with Christ you will encourage each other to regularly worship because you want them to: 1. I don't have the kind of space necessary to speak of the manifold benefits of sitting under regular preaching, but I'll list a few. At the same time, it's important to recognize that the corporate gathering of the people of God, in receiving the supper and lifting our voices in song, prepares and shapes the desires of our hearts to focus on God throughout the whole week.Still, over the years I've come to see that there is key mark of a maturing relationship centered and continually centering itself on Christ: both of you are absolutely committed to each other's involvement in the local church. First, it convicts of sin and humbles us before Christ. If for no other reason than avoiding the danger of your significant other turning your own relationship (or you!A heart that doesn't submit to listening to the law will be hardened against any call to repentance—that’s the death-knell of any godly relationship. Unless regularly reminded of the grace of Christ, the heart will begin to sink into sin, go into hiding, and find its deepest affirmation in things other than Christ—like an idolatrous focus on your relationship, for instance. ) into an idol, you want them weekly pouring out their hearts in praise to their true Redeemer and Savior.Third, the Word of God truly preached brings us by the power of the Spirit into the presence of Christ. You also want your significant other to have communion with the body of Christ outside of your own relationship. Did you note the developing trend in the four points above? Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed."When Madaline is out of the house I want to date, but I don't know how." Samantha has been divorced for only a year, but would like to start dating again even though her two boys are still in elementary school.